Well guys, the time has come, I will be married in exactly 10 days, let the countdown begin...
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Well guys, the time has come, I will be married in exactly 10 days, let the countdown begin...
Yay for you! :cheers:
Most important question: what does she drive? :twisted:
S.
him in 10 days! :lol:Quote:
Originally Posted by srivendel
Congrats man...
Congrats, nine days for me :)
Just remember... In Texas, after 10 years, she's eligible for alimony. :shock:
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Originally Posted by channelmaniac
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BTW Congratulations! 8)
HAHAHAHAHAHA!
Hey, seriously though... if I could offer one tidbit of advice... never go to bed angry - finish the argument. It keeps trouble from building & building and helps keep communication going.
And CONGRATS!
RJ
Or just don't go to bed! :lol: :lol:Quote:
Originally Posted by channelmaniac
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First of all, Congratulations to you both! Secondly, I can't help but comment on cm's advice:
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Originally Posted by channelmaniac
Yeah, I've heard lots of people say that one... not sure I agree with it. Going to bed before you say/do stuff (1) you don't really mean, (2) you'll regret later, and (3) you'll remember all your life seems like a good idea to me sometimes. You need to finish the conversation/discussion/argument to get resolution, but taking time to cool off -- i.e. sleeping on it -- can take some of the emotion out of it. Heck, in the morning, what was ticking you off so much last night might seem pretty trivial... or stupid. :wink:
Congrats to both of you.
My fiance' and I will be tying the knot either this summer or this fall. :)
As for fighting, well, my fiance' and I rarely fight. Twice since we met over a year ago. :D We tend to talk things out and resolve them with explanation and compromise.
Now my ex... that's a relationship all done wrong... :lol:
I guess my advice is this. NEVER hold anything in. Discuss your feelings in a calm way with your partner. Holding things in will only make them stronger and lead to explosive blow ups.
Unless the "something" you're holding in is "Honey, I just bought $1,389 worth of wheels and tires and they'll be here on Friday."Quote:
Originally Posted by black roadster
In that case, better to wait til Friday so you only have to deal with it once. :thumrigh:
Other than that, I concur with the advice given. Married six years (been dating her for 12) and "not going to bed angry" has worked like a charm.
S.
Not to mention keeping away those thoughts she'd likely have of putting a pillow over your head during the night.... :lol: (just kidding - I've been married to the same man for almost 17 years and haven't killed him yet).Quote:
and "not going to bed angry" has worked like a charm.
Congratulations and many happy years together! :bash: :oops: ....er, I meant :chug:
Congrats Jigger! The key to relationship longevity is to not speak to each other. Ever! :wink:
Just kidding. Keep communication open and honest. Don't sweat the small stuff. I'll be celebrating my 18th anniversary this year!
Congrats!!Quote:
Originally Posted by sammm
We're celebrating our fifth this week... or actually, if you add the leap year... technically, this is our 1.25 anniversary!!
Edit- I forgot to add, we were married Feb. 29, 2000... Leap Year day... a Tuesday!
After 7 & 1/2 years of marriage, I agree with this one! :mrgreen:Quote:
Originally Posted by sammm
Seriously though, remember that all relationships are different. If I took channelmaniac's advice on never going to bed angry, there would be days I'd never sleep. My wife and I are both hotheads (and we're both stubborn as well, although she'll tell you I've got her beat in both categories :wink: ), so sometimes the best course of action for us is to go to bed angry, then wake up and laugh about it in the morning.
A wise man I once knew told me that "People who never fight have nothing to be passionate about." That's not saying that you should take the gloves off over every little thing, but realize that fights do happen sometimes. Just make sure to choose your battles wisely.
Of course, I'm still working on that one! :lol:
Coming up on 11 years, we have learned that it is OK to go to bed angry. Took us the first 5 years to figure that out. :wink:
I seem to remember that the first year or so involved several nights a week where we would fight 'till 2am, I would apologize till 4am, then the make-up sex continued till dawn. :thumleft:
Your wife is Korean IIRC, if so that explains alot :lol: :DQuote:
Originally Posted by altiain
Well that tidbit has worked for us for 14 years now... ;)
Take it from the old man around here...the solution to all marital bliss is one key phrase
"Yes, dear." works like a charm :wink:
Amen!Quote:
Originally Posted by onething
Take my wife, PLEASE :!: :wink:
j/k, I wish you well, it's a big step. The misses and me been hitched for 17+ years. I do my stuff - She does hers, and occationally we do stuff together.
My advise for a long lasting marrage, total trust both ways, but don't abuse it. If you can't trust each other then somethings wrong. Give her space, and she will give you your space, as well, enjoy time together.
Ok, time for the REAL old guy to pipe in. Congrats on the forthcoming marriages guys. It took me 3 times to get it right, but the last one has lasted 25 years! Yep, quarter century. The only real arguments we have had over the years is, in her terminology, "cars, cars, yak, yak!" Problem is, she is right. Practically every vacation we have taken over the years has been attached to a car event of some kind, especially so for the past 9 years we have been living in Texas. She used to come to al lot of events, especially those all weekend, overnight events where social activity was involved, but has pretty much stopped coming since she retired. (which seems odd, but I quit questioning) She pretty much does her thing and I do mine, but we try to spend a lot of time together during the week. We have gone to bed angry at each other many times over the years, and like altian says, wake up and laugh about what were were originally upset about. If the chemistry is there, you can work out nearly any problem, but if it's not, it can be an uphill battle. Just do everything you can to keep the flame lit...
I can live with that. :roll:Quote:
Originally Posted by sammm
Down to 5 days...
WOW... That's kinda like watching this...
:shock:
J/K!!!!! :lol:
Well, today's our anniversary... 5 years... or really 1.25... but great nonetheless... 8)
Congratulations, 3Bean! :mrgreen:
You're just a ray of sunshine ain't ya? :roll:Quote:
Originally Posted by channelmaniac
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Originally Posted by channelmaniac
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Originally Posted by channelmaniac
HAHAHAHA!!!
Well at least Jiggerachi understood IT WAS A JOKE. :roll:
Whatever Sparky.Quote:
Originally Posted by channelmaniac
Down to 3 days...
I doubt ill be back on here for awhile, seeing as we are having to set everything up ourselves, so ill be busy as all hell up untill the wedding. Ill see you guys in 2 weeks when we get back... from Hawaii :D :afro: :chug:
[Cabin Boy]I leave you all as a cabin boy. But I will return...as a cabin MAN[/Cabin Boy]
:D :D
oops, wrong button...
Enjoy the mauka and the makai... I've always considered Hawai'i my third home! Aloha!
Good luck and God speed!
Have you ever been to Hawaii???Quote:
Originally Posted by Treibenschnell
Yes... very much so... I love the islands.Quote:
Originally Posted by onething
I have plenty of pictures if you'd like!
Ok, you guys can stop worring, im finally back to entertain you :D
Hawaii was freaking awesome, I cant wait to get back there!!
Very nice!! And congrats again!!
Any pics to share? 8)