Ok, time for the REAL old guy to pipe in. Congrats on the forthcoming marriages guys. It took me 3 times to get it right, but the last one has lasted 25 years! Yep, quarter century. The only real arguments we have had over the years is, in her terminology, "cars, cars, yak, yak!" Problem is, she is right. Practically every vacation we have taken over the years has been attached to a car event of some kind, especially so for the past 9 years we have been living in Texas. She used to come to al lot of events, especially those all weekend, overnight events where social activity was involved, but has pretty much stopped coming since she retired. (which seems odd, but I quit questioning) She pretty much does her thing and I do mine, but we try to spend a lot of time together during the week. We have gone to bed angry at each other many times over the years, and like altian says, wake up and laugh about what were were originally upset about. If the chemistry is there, you can work out nearly any problem, but if it's not, it can be an uphill battle. Just do everything you can to keep the flame lit...